A “connection” is never one way. But what if this ‘law’ doesn’t always make sense? Maybe I am confusing connection with attraction, or maybe it’s a mix of natural desperation and attraction. But I feel it, and I know I feel it. But she doesn’t, so it’s one way. But I always believed that you can’t feel for someone, without her feeling back for you, because the reason you feel for her, is because she feels back for you. It’s this two way thing that gets it going. She responds, and waits for your response. She wants to know why you couldn’t say ‘hi’ to her the last time you saw her in school, and you feel good that she feels that way. So develops what you think is a “connection” and a “desire”. Yeah? Well not really, at least this time, so the whole idea I once had about “Half-Understanding Human Psychology” takes a trip, because well, the most important aspect doesn’t fit into the jigsaw. So I get confused, and well I am confused, and hope to learn something from this, and then come up with a better “Half-Understanding Human Psychology” theory. P.S. This post, I write, because I don’t want to lose the emotion that I am currently feeling. So forgive me if it’s annoying.
23 comments:
ok i wudnt exactly knoe how u feel ( obviously) - but i just hope everything ends up ok. all i can say is tht maybe u shud jus focus on getting over the person mentioned . moreover ur boards are approaching so all i can hope is tht u dont let this affect u too much . knowing u, u r strong enuff to shrug this off in due time...
besta luk with respect to this
thanks but if u know me..why go anon?
ok now i get why =)
i wud rather say its cute than annoying..luks like ur goin thru a reely confusing phase..gess tats wat love dus 2 u...wel im no expert so i cant reely help...wish u luck with this dream girl of urs...
Another anonymous, but I think its better this way! Youre right a connection has to be 2 ways. And you are wrong that the apparent connection is only from your side. Cant be. Even if its one she may not admit to its definitely there. So express yourself & clear the air & then get back to your studies!!better said than done? yu bet.
Anon @ 2:15 - expressing myself and clearing the air is what i have been doing, and this post was the conclusion I reached after doing all of that. And thus i dont think i was wrong about the fact that the "connection" was one sided. Shit this sounds like an "econ" proof answer.
Anyway, thanks for your input.
Ask youself dude whether u want this to go somewhere or ur surprised by it urself and its just a friend thing. If u find the situation turns out to be that you want, she dont, you ask, she says no - all u need is a crash course in how to be a playa...
well im sorry i have nuthin to say
(i didn't really understand ur problem)
but whatever it is best of luck
only thing i understood and can give u advice for is forget about it and concentrate on ur boards
right...
if u doan mind can u pls explain ur problem 2 me in simple english
thnx
Listen Anish. The whole ‘hi’ scenario in school? It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s into you. I know a lot of girls who do the same and most often they’r just doing it to ‘complain’ and show that they’ve noticed. As a friend.
Maybe you’ve misinterpreted her signals? Cause from what you’ve written, it sound fairly one-sided. I don’t mean to belittle your dilemma, but maybe you’re just crushing on her?
And yeah. I think you should focus your priorities on your studies at hand right now and not on this girl.
Sorry if I’ve pushed my limits as a commenter, but Im just voicing out my thoughts here
And I appreciate that, thanks.
hey,
whats it with all the anonymi?
much as i have absolutely no right to tell you what you should do,i think you should wait till the end of the boards. Give her some time to think- she could be a little conused too. And you didn't mention, but if she has her boards coming up as well, maybe she doesn't want to get into anything right now. Hey, you can stay awake for 50 hours- i'm sure you can forget about this for 50 days!
Best of Luck anyhow!
and thankyou soo much for removing word verification! I hate that thing! :P
=) thanks unmukt!
Oookaaayyy...I guess you're tired of ppl telling you that your Boards are coming up. Frankly, I treated my Boards like I did any other exam and I did pretty well...If you want to do well in them, if you're motivated enough, I don't see how even this can distract you.
Now, about the connection part... well, someone commented up there how girls normally do this "you didn't say hi to me" thing. Yes, I can verify that...most will do so, but not all. I've done this with ppl who are really important to me, so maybe this girl feels you're important enough for her to complain to you?
Confusion will always be there...and sometimes you might want to take a chance. Maybe not now, but later...why not? Wot's the worst that could happen anyway??
I think that..."you don't regret what you said, you'll regret what you didn't say"
Good luck with everything... :)
i am in the vv same situation tht ur in....i danced,talked with "her" last nite...it was heaven!!shes jus my frd...so i ask myself do i ask her out now or wait fr my boards to finish!!??!am scared this anxiety might affect my boards!!this was jus to show u tht thr a lot f people in the same situation.....well now fr the 1st time am asking fr divine help....helll i dont c any other way!!
know I may not b the best judge 4 this post, but I cannot help but say this quote
"an eagle cannot fly with the wings of a sparrow"
choose, knowing that either way, one will get over in 2 months and the other in about 6...
What is it to feel emotion for someone else? What is it to evolve a connection? I dont see how and why it becomes necessary for the second party to know u in order 4 u to feel something for her. I'm sorry, I cannot understand how you can feel for another person and expect the same person feeling back for YOU. I suppose such situations transcend any regular conversation - I'd even call it a bond and place it above friendship. But u have to be able to substantiate for yourself that she reciprocates emotion and the emotion is the same.
get over it dude!! seriously...the faster the better..you don't want this to go to another level...i felt exactly the same way..and now i've been obsessed with this girl for like ever...
Call me country, but BOY OH BOY... If you like her, you like her!
As for everyone and their 'boards' comments... Knowing you, you've got control over yourself, you'll be fine. (even though I just finished reading 'Concentration Problem')
Anishhh .. I would like to say that I personally think it's impossible to 'just get over' someone.
And no, not annoying, cute. It's nice to see a guy who actually says what's on his mind! Respect ? :P
i've always thought attraction is a two-way thing actually. Exactly why i never take it seriously.
But then that's just me. You're YOU. You don't need to be worried about being confused because advice or no advice, ultimately you're gonna end up making your own decision.
look at me, for instance. i'm ALWAYS confused! No, really.
i'm not one for giving unwanted advice so i'll just shutup now.
Jo
i also think Srini needs to relax... go to the Bahamas...:P:P
kiddin.
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