Friday, July 21, 2006

'Angels With Broken Wings'


This summer, thanks to my great mum, I got an opportunity to volunteer for this extremely special summer camp organized by SFS (Special Families Support), a support organization for the less fortunate special children and their families. Before I get started, let me list out a few 'characters' that are vital for this post. Gulshan Kavarana - the founder of SFS, who to me is Gulshan aunty - the coolest aunty ever, with the biggest possible heart & Deepa - the organiser of the summer camp – who is very sweet and really hard-working.

My first day of the camp itself, was very enlightening. Gulshan aunty asked us, the volunteers, "Why are you here?" My confidence self, confidently uttered "We are here to help these special kids." "What rubbish!", was the reply, "These kids don't need your help, they can handle themselves." She told us that we were here to merely accompany them and to a certain extent, support them. We were there to be their friends, and to see them as our friends, and to bring smiles to their faces, and provide them and their parents an escape from the difficult world they live in. As it turns out, I love doing exactly that, so my enthusiasm levels have been very high for the past month, especially when I am with them. And quite obviously, I thoroughly enjoyed everyday of the summer camp, and am still enjoying every day - as the camp is still not over.

As days went by at the camp, Gulshan aunty found out (I think through me) that I could make 'stupid IT presentations'. So she asked me come over to her place and make a special presentation for her younger daughter, Zaara, her 'angel with broken wings'. I agreed to do it because I wanted to do it. I reached her place at noon and immediately got to work. I asked her, "Aunty, what's the objective of this video?" She said that, thorugh this video, she wanted to portray the beauty of her daughter, Zaara, and go beyond what most people saw in her - her disability. She wanted to delineate the fact that Zaara was a miracle, a gift from heaven, that she was their love. After that, the video almost sidetracked. I was keener on knowing what aunty and her family had been through and how Zaara had changed their lives, for the better. Gulshan aunty told me that Zaara taught them 'unconditional love'. She had taught them to see people for what they are, and not merely as they appear. Gulshan aunty said that Zaara helped her burst out of the cocoon that most of us are still enclosed in, the cocoon that family is everything. Zaara helped aunty to reach out to other people and other special families that were going through similar ups and downs. Thus, she instigated SFS - Special Families Support, an organization to bring together and support those familes that were a little less fortunate. 7 years of functioning, this organization has definitely changed and affected many people's life. Gulshan aunty continued that now, she is addicted to this organization. She just has to be around these kids, for they sustain her, and teach her values and lessons that no one else can. She told me that she loved being around the kids because they saw you for what you are, and not as what you appear (tall, thin, fat and so on) and told me that it's a pity that we can't see them like they see us. It's a pity that some of us cannot see them for what they are, humans with heart, soul, and love, love that oozes out because they have so much of it.

The video I eventually made was decent, but the experience I had with Gulshan aunty and her family overshadowed the video. It shattered my previously narrow-minded approach. It opened new horizons, and gateways of thought that I needed to dive into. As I absorbed every word that aunty told me, I actually learnt acceptance.

This summer camp has made my summer complete in its own way. Previously, I had never done anything like this, so I did not know what to expect. This camp took me by storm, for what I have learnt from this experience is boundless. It has opened my narrow mind to dimensions of thought that I would have never had. Adding to that, the pure satisfaction that I get from seeing smiles on their faces, and the joy that small things can bring them, is priceless. However idealistic and fake this sounds, I get satisfaction from their satisfaction, and that is the satisfaction and the joy that is priceless. This camp has made me realize that social work is necessary not only for the 'hours' that are required for your University Application, but for the learning experience that no other service can cater. I want to stay affiliated to SFS because the work done here is genuine and heartfelt. Nothing is forced, and we (as I can proudly say as now I am a part of this group) do things, because we want to do them. Thanks to Gulshan aunty for starting this organization and to Deepa for wonderfully organising this summer camp.

P.S. - This is not a corporate article typed to uphold and/or advertise SFS.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you for your kind words.....did i really say rubbish???? anyways I'm so glad that you are a part of our ever growing ever loving SFS family.I'm sure you you always cherish the memories of the summer camp.
You have been so spontaneous so generousand absolutely wonderful with the children,the parents and the volunteers.
When i spoke about you to a friend of mine, she asked me to indroduce you to her 11 year old son as she sees you as a role model for her son.
Please continue doing the great work that you do and be the person you are.
good luck and all our blessings for a bright and happy future.
Gulshan aunty.

Anonymous said...

i wont be surprised if they do make this a co porate artic to uphold SFS:P

excelletnly written. i cant commetn much because i dont know much or identify with this organization.

one point defintely worth bringing up is that social service is just not for the university hours. i had the oppurtuinity to do similiar community servuce work in austria , india and of course in dubai centre for special needs. Communication was a bit of a problem for me , in the countries and i didnt have enough time there . had the same experience as you did no not to such extents due to the above problems.

nevertheless it was defintly a moving experience ...well youve said it all in this entry ...i cant agree with it more.

- gomezzzzzz

Abha Malpani said...

Brilliant post. I am very proud of you. My whole life I have talked about helping others, doing social work etc. But just talked.

Keep it up. I hope to post a write-up of this nature soon.

Anonymous said...

firstly.....Thank you Anish ..i am really gratefull to you for gettin me into SFC and manzil.
The first day i went was the ice skating day... i tht it would be just another helping the disabled children stand on ice kinda thing. But, to my surprise,it was not. Most knew how to skate. Aziz was almost as good as me. It was then i realised that we were actually not there to help them or to do community service... we wre there just to be there "friends".Just to talk, laugh and have fun.
In that process, not making them realise that they are any less fortunate than us. Probably most are smarter and quicker than me. i bet.
Takin our phone numbers and holdin our hands is just a way to show us their friendship, love and emotions. Through our meetings, we learn from them and they learn from us....its kinda like symbiosis. I go there just to see them ;) Smile, and that everlasting smile ..brings them closer to us.
In the end of the day, we knw that we have done a good deed.

Anonymous said...

hey anish well done on this! yes i agree with ashiq this article is flawless and very touching! SFS is surely proud to have you as a part of it! With you in the camp i really have seen the smile on every child's face there. You have brightened up the days n made it even more fun!The fact that you spread this among your friends makes it even more better and they also end up joining SFS.You are hardworking , cheerful , kind , and lots more! an all rounder!
great work! bless you!cheers!
- natasha mehra

Anonymous said...

Well written article Anish. Nice to know that you are using this time to actually do something good.

I really haven't had much experience doing social work. But my mom's been working with austistic children for 7 years (she's now working in Dubai Autism Centre), so I have met with some of the chldren she has worked with. Ofcourse, she also relates her daily experiences and views to me.

Autistic children might be a bit different from the children you are dealing with at SFS, but I just wanted to relate 'my' only connection with special needs children.

Quite often I wonder how my mom enjoys what she is doing. Managing upto 4 children, attending to their needs continuously, rushing them to the toilet every 5 minutes, etc. At the end of it all, hours of effort brings out very little progress. Yet, my mom says she loves working with these children. I guess the reasons are the same as yours and your colleagues'.
Quite often my mom tells me about how intelligent these children actually are. Their only problem is that they are unable to express this either through words or actions. Just imagine yourself in their position. You know what needs to be done, what must be said, yet you can't do it or say it. You are hungry and a chips packet lies next to you, but you can't reach out and help yourself!

Enjoy the rest of your time with SFS and keep smiling!

Anonymous said...

finally I read it-I am proud of U.
Kishore

Anonymous said...

hey... i have heard sooo much about you from my friends... i have seen some photos of you... never spoken or met you... sometimes its annoying when everyone goes on about you... they can't stop talking about how sweet you are... everything is like anish this and anish that... and bla bla bla... and its been so long... almost a year... now you're thinking who i am... thats for me to know and you to find out... ahhhh i love playing such games... hahahahahaha... tc bye

Anonymous said...

hey anish...

u really make me proud ... great write up n a great doing... keep up the good work...
take care

suchu

Anonymous said...

THe first time I am commenting on any post. This was really well written.

Firstly, Thank you so much Anish for getting me into SFS and Manzil. I usually feel sort of bored during my summer vaccations although I am dreading school opening this time. But SFS made me enjoy it tremendously.

I find most of the kids like Harsha, Nilofar, Aziz and Nadeem so friendly. I was sort of wondering what to expect on the first day. But Sameera took my hand and asked my name etc. as soon as I etered the bus. I thoroughly enjoyed this SFS Summer camp and am looking forward to all the further meetings.

I agree with Romit some of these kids are soo smart.

Lookin forward for the next SFS trip.

tc.. bye